[MonkeyMama]

I have not come across that so much.

We planned our children, to the month, yes. Well, we tried, and we REALLY lucked out. No we did not tell anyone. Like we needed the extra pressure? Felt that was very private.

I feel extremely blessed because most everyone I know either had an oops (a real and true accident) or could not get pregnant. I just know way too many people in both boats and realized for all our best laid plans there was more than our own plans at play. So I have always felt lucky we were able to have our kids so close together, at the time we wanted them. People have said some REALLY stupid things to my mom over the years since my sister and I were 6 years apart. It never occurs to a lot of people that maybe there was a few years of trying (& many miscarriages) in between. Likewise, I think there are worse things than having children far apart - could have been planned for all they know - who cares???

I will give you this as far as the pet peeve on the "accident" side. I had a number of friends who had accidents on the pill (mostly because their doctors did not tell them that antibiotics counteract the pill). BUT I know quite a few people who had 2-3 "Accidents" on the pill. Give me a break. At which point do you consider an alternate method? Also know a few too many accidents with sterilization. The times that we did not want kids (now being a very strong time I do not want another child) we double up on the birth control. So the planner in me gets annoyed at people sometimes, but I also understand "mistakes" happen and for the most part they end up being happy mistakes. But yeah, believe me, if I got pregnant on the pill once, I'd consider a backup/second method if I didn't want it to happen twice. I am too much of a control freak to just leave that to chance. & the third time? You couldn't have been that opposed to it.

BUT yeah no one has ever told me they weren't trying but not using birth control. Oh my! Doh.

What about when one partner wants a child and the other one doesn't? Oh boy, I have heard some stories there. I am afraid that is where a lot of the pill "accidents" come in as well. (No accident).