I have to agree that you and your spouse need to sit down and talk and agree on the situation.
I'm only 21 and I always knew when my parents didn't agree on something. It's very easy to use that to your advantage as a kid.
Also, I read a lot of responses saying that he needs to go back to school. College isn't for everyone. Maybe a technical school would be more his thing. You said something about the internet. Is he interested in the internet? There are a lot of diploma and degree programs at technical schools that relate to web design, internet security, e-commerce, etc. Maybe this is more his thing than a college degree.
Lastly, until he is given some responsibility, he isn't going to change. You need to cut him off financially. I lived at home until I got married. We were responsible for our own bills. Cell phone, automobile, etc. We paid all our entertainment expenses & for all our clothes. The only thing we weren't paying for was rent & some food expenses (dining out we had to pay for).
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