Sounds somewhat like my sister, she recently moved back in with my parents and doesn't have an exit strategy.
I admit that I moved back in with my parents for a few months after finishing up college, but we all knew that it was short term and that as soon as I got a full time job I would be on my way.
I would have to say that your son needs a wake-up call. I know it sounds severe, but have you thought about changing the locks?
It's hard to give advice in these situations, because of the emotional ties to the child, but perhaps not being able to get back into the house would be a jolt to his system that he can't simply live at home without contributing to the household.
If that does wake him up to the situation, you can have a talk with him about setting some objectives (maybe getting back in school, contributing $$ to house, cleaning up the whole house, etc.) Then you can look at a slow exit strategy.
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