I've never felt that it takes effort or work to communicate with my DH. I really do feel like this is a pretty effortless relationship. We both have a strong desire to please each other (and ourselves).
Now, I have had past relationships that I would have considered a LOT of work. Not even worth it in the long run, and they were so much hassle. I'm absolutely thrilled that I finally found DH!
PS - Seeker, I think between DH and I, his traits (sensitivity, communication, etc.) are probably much more female than mine. I think I am more the "male" in our relationship, lol. Maybe this is why so many women like to befriend gay men (DH isn't gay, but he's really like having a girlfriend - with benefits). He always loves to talk about everything and he's so sappy. Definitely not what I'm used to in a man.
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