I don't see luck as being much to do with it. It is VERY important to wait until you find the right person. I waited until I was well into my 30s to marry. Why? Because I KNEW that none of the people I was with before then were totally right for me. We were together long enough for me to figure that out. I also never would have married anyone without living together for a while first (I know some don't like this, but for me it was mandatory). If the right person for me would have come along at 22, then I guess that would have been lucky, but I probably wouldn't have been ready for him then, lol. I was also TOTALLY okay with the idea of never getting married. Marriage wasn't one of my life's goals. I always had the thought that if it happens, that's great, and if not that's okay too. I would far rather be single than be stuck in a miserable relationship. I knew I never wanted to get divorced, so the decision to marry would be a very important one for me. I think some people are just so focused on wanting some silly fairy tale wedding and spend more time planning for that one day than actually considering the years to come after that.
As for the hard work part, I never think of anything to do with my marriage as work. We are best friends and lovers. It is a relationship that feels so effortless to me that I cannot really describe it. I know of very few couples who are as happy as we are. I'm almost embarrassed to have no real complaints about my DH. Nothing to moan about to other women, etc.
PS - He's a very sensitive, giving, romantic person. He cooks me special meals (he's a chef), etc. I think he's the woman in our relationship. He gets all teary eyed and emotional far easier than I do.
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