I'm going to go with work. Marriage could ultimately be considered ongoing negotiations- in a good marriage, you will always find a way to meet in the middle.
I know a goodly number of people who feel "trapped" in their marriages. Some are unable to be financially independent of a spouse, others stay for health reasons (either themselves or their spouse), some stay for the kids' sake. There are endless reasons to feel stuck.
I've also been surprised by how many people I've known who decided to divorce in their 50s once the kids are all gone, but then didn't because they realized they could not afford to get divorced. It's sad to see people so miserable with each other, but financially unable to split into two.
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