I think "change" is the key word here. Ultimately over time things and people do change; this cannot be helped.
Yes, it's very probable that some people enter into marriage expecting the other person to change somewhat. Actually people do change somewhat.... but not always in the way that is expected or desired.
And yes, it's also possible for changes to happen down the line that affect the other so drastically that a personality changes completely and the two cannot agree anymore.
We all probably know people in both situations.
Marriage takes work (compromise and commitment) on both individuals. Luck is not a real characteristic; we can be victims of bad luck, but if both people are willing to work through the difficulty, then in many cases the marriage becomes stronger.
But if the work fails (the ability of either one of the people to compromise & commit), the marriage is certain to be next.
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