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Originally Posted by poundwise
being foolish and wasteful on the day you begin a new life together is not setting the right precedent for the future.
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I agree with all you said, but I also think there is another side to it. Who decides what is "foolish and wasteful"? I'd certainly agree that it is foolish to have an expensive affair if you are charging it all on high-interest credit cards and taking years to pay it off.
But what if the bride's parents are paying for the affair and they have been setting money aside for years in anticipation of a wedding someday. Now they are thrilled to be able to provide that dream wedding for their daughter. Is that foolish? Maybe not. Could the money be used for something more practical? Sure. But does all spending have to be practical? I don't think so.
We will celebrate our 16th anniversary in less than 2 months. We had a very nice wedding. Not crazy like you see on TV today but pretty elaborate for the time. You know what. Our friends still talk about it when we're together. It was a very memorable event for all of us. Who is to say that it was "foolish and wasteful"? We didn't think so. My in-laws who were paying for it didn't think so. My parents who paid for a portion of it didn't think so.
I think if you can afford it and are willing to do it, go for it and enjoy. But if you can't afford it, don't.