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Originally Posted by AmbitiousSaver
We want too much.... I actually suggested he go IA (something he's been suggesting to me to do to get out of debt). He'd be gone for a year in Iraq. We agree on our month to month budget... but can't agree on our goals or what to save for.
He tried equating my masters degree to him wanting a motorcycle, and I said No, my masters can earn me more money. I'm just ARRRRGHHHH!! Frustrated. I love him... but him going to Iraq for a year has suddenly become very tempting since he's not willing to budge on his goals.
He wants to spend $6K on a motorcycle, $1500 to see his family... I want $9000 for my master's degree and $8000 to have my family go back to Hawaii so my Dad can see the baby and I can too.
The conversation was never fully resolved. I told him I'll figure out how to get him a motorcycle if he figures out how to let me see my family in Hawaii. I don't know...
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You each believe your own goals trump that of the other. That is a recipe for disaster. The budget needs to account for all financial goals, so my take is you really do not have a budget yet.
Figure out the long term, mid term and short term goals. Make sure the long term goals (debt free and retirement) are funded first, but do not fund all long term goals at expense of some reasonable short term goals.
Maybe let DH take a vacation where he can rent a motorcycle for a weekend. Maybe that delays the itch to get one.