[AmbitiousSaver]

We're actually trying to plan to see his family this year... my family next year. So we go 2 years between seeing each other's family. I've tried not to make the trip to Hawaii excessive, but 6 plane tickets costs a lot. From our last trip (which we only made cause my Dad paid for the airfare for 5 people).... by having the mileage from our last trip paying for one of the plane tickets... so we only have to buy 5, the hotel which is a military hotel that is tax free. But now, we have one extra person so we are no longer allowed to have 1 room anymore... thus increasing the costs.

My best friend offered us to stay with her but DH doesn't want to... but that would save us $1500. He says her place is too small (2 bedroom 1000 sq ft condo)... my friend knows there are 6 of us and thinks it would work, but DH still doesn't want to.... I've also told him I could just take that "free" ticket... stay with my best friend and go back by myself with the baby. But he wants to go too.

I don't know... our conversation yesterday ended with us both deciding seeing family is important. He's supposed to get some extra travel pay this summer that should allow us to pay to see his family in cash... and in October, he gets a bonus. We were going to use that to pay down the credit card, but use that to pay for the plane tickets in cash. So although we aren't paying down the credit card as fast as we would like... we are still paying it down every month and not adding to it. Then between October and April (which is when I plan to see my family)... I can come up with the rest in cash. So both trips are paid for with cash.

That leaves the motorcycle and my master's degree up in the air... but we're still talking. This isn't going to be solved in one long conversation and we both know that. He's still my best friend... and I am his... I did mention if he REALLY wants a motorcycle... maybe we could sell his car and downsize his car to afford a car we can buy in cash and a motorcycle in cash. I mentioned that yesterday and he said it wouldn't work.... but now he's thinking about it. We'll see, but yeah... this will be a process. Main thing is, we aren't really SURE what we are going to do in respect to our goals yet... in the meantime till we can come to a resolution, we are saving and paying down the CC. The whole situation is overwhelming so I know its going to take a lot of discussion between him and I before we reach that "financial peace" where we know the answer and are both 100% okay with it. It took him and I a month of negotiation when I had to sell my car and his motorcycle to downsize to his commuter car.