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Originally Posted by Scanner
I read maybe 70% of the posts. . .skimming by. . .but the one thing that struck me was you admitting to denying your husband $50 for a pair of shoes (which is on the high side of reasonable for sneaks, very reasonable for dress shoes). I consider this a request for an essential expense and then you dropped $50 on a Pampered Chef item, which like what. . .they charge $50 for a pair of salad tongs?
I'd be frustrated too if I were your husband. . .I don't have the answer but I think the answer is a more of a psychological shift vs. a financial shift.
Sorry if this came across crass.
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I agree that this sounds like a double standard, but I am guessing (correct me if I'm wrong) that this may come out of not having a clear plan, and alternating between panic ("We need to stop spending now!") and rationalization ("I work hard, I deserve it.") I think this can be solved by having clearly written and agreed upon goals. You may want to consider having some amount of fun money each month that is not accountable to the other person. It may take a little longer to pay off the debt this way but it will lessen the stress a lot.