Money issues are among the top reasons why couples have problems that lead to divorce. Poor judgment, poor self control, over controllingness, impulsivity, or inability to work with the other on money matters can break up any relationship. That is why I think understanding his money situation IS important in deciding to move in with and/or marry him.
You know--like does the divorcing couple have credit card bills to pay off, cards that
he was 95% responsible for by over-buying electronics, or camera equipment, or woodworking supplies, or even charging up things for a business, or whatever?
See, I think what bills a person has, how they came about those bills, and how they intend to honor their debt says a lot about them. I would not consider a living-together or marriage to someone that I did not know these things about. It is not about how much money he has. It is about how honorable he is with his money dealings. Actually it goes both ways. He should know the same about her before a commitment. It is just that with a longer life history and a longer history of being financially bound with another person he may have more to reveal than she does. They should both have their eyes open.
Sorry for all the "shoulds."
