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Originally Posted by ScrimpAndSave
I don't know. My mother had me at 42 and my father was 46.
I am 27 and my father will be turning 74 in a few months.
He STILL runs circles around me.
It's pretty ignorant to say that she will be doing most of the work because he will be too tired...everyone's situation is different.
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"Ignorant" is a pretty strong word and not really fair; the OP was asking about concerns of the age difference and she needs to consider that concern; we are talking about a person 20 years older than she is and the "energy" factor is a valid concern.
One of my brothers (47 YO) has a pre-teen in school and he's constantly saying "no more kids." I'm not sure of my SIL's age, but probably late 30's or early 40's.
Yes every person is different, and your situation is not the same as having one parent 20 years older than the other parent.
Both your folks had you when they were older, but what would have been the situation if she was 42 and he 62? Do you think the work put in would have been the same from the 20 years older parent?
At any rate, the concern is valid.