Ah, come on, now. We really do have to allow that there can be cultural differences. What one group of people finds rude another group finds normal. Sometimes we have to be able to be in Rome and do as the Romans do.
I was eating with friends who handle meals a little differently than I am accustomed to. At one point, my hostess popped up from the table and brought me a second paper napkin. I was puzzled. I told her I still had my first and that it was good. They were high quality paper napkins, not those whisper thin things. She said something to exhort me to take the second napkin. As I did, I thought that perhaps I had unknowingly done something that signaled the need for another. I had folded the first in half. Did that mean the napkin was done in? Had I touched it to my nose or something, and that was something too disgusting for my hostess to contemplate at the lunch table? It is a small matter, but I do not like wasting the second napkin. But, I accepted it and will try to inquire about dinner napkin etiquette some other time. It might be that from her cultural viewpoint I had actually requested the second napkin or had done something rude enough to require the second. From my point of view, I did nothing disgusting or rude, nor did I think I asked for it.
These things can come up with small matters like napkins and large matters like weddings.
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