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Old 04-30-2008, 09:29 AM
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Originally Posted by disneysteve View Post
I've never understood this method. First, I have no idea how much the meal cost and I think it would be rude to ask. Second, the reception is typically being paid for by the bride's family, not the bride and groom, so why should the amount of the gift be tied to the cost of the wedding since the money isn't going to the people who are paying the bills anyway. Third, why should people who choose to (and can afford to) have a fancier affair get larger gifts than someone who prefers (or can only afford) a more modest affair? If anything, the folks of more modest means are probably the ones who can most use the money.
Ditto that! I certainly didn't want my broke friends to skip my wedding just because my not as broke family could afford a fancier plate per person...

We got a cards with less than $10 in them, we were still appreciative. wouldn't have even begun to cover the cost of the dinner (much less open bar) but it wasn't the point, we wanted our friends there..the ones unemployed and the ones with lousy jobs..and the family with good jobs. (we didn't have any friends with good jobs that I know of...)
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