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Originally Posted by cooliemae
My fiance grew up with the understanding that when one attended a wedding you provided enough money for your meal, plus a little extra for the bride and groom.
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I've never understood this method. First, I have no idea how much the meal cost and I think it would be rude to ask. Second, the reception is typically being paid for by the bride's family, not the bride and groom, so why should the amount of the gift be tied to the cost of the wedding since the money isn't going to the people who are paying the bills anyway. Third, why should people who choose to (and can afford to) have a fancier affair get larger gifts than someone who prefers (or can only afford) a more modest affair? If anything, the folks of more modest means are probably the ones who can most use the money.