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Old 04-29-2008, 02:18 PM
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Originally Posted by LuxLiving View Post
and on the wedding invites too, I'd have my maid of honor and best man sign these inserts...

"Ms. Cooliemae & Mr. Cooliemae-To-Be plan to buy a home soon to get them started in life. Although registry gifts are lovely they already possess many household items, so, their family and beloved guests are encouraged to gift them w/cash or equivalent in lieu of a wrapped gift to help them with their future down-payment. A money tree will be available at the shower/reception or you can make a deposit at $$Bank in downtown Cooliemaeville to the "Cooliemae House Fund". Every time they enter their Home-Sweet-Home they will be reminded of the great send-off you gave them!"

...or something to that effect!
JMHO but I would find this quite tacky. There is simply no polite way to ask for cash.

What I would suggest is telling your parents and perhaps your bridal party members the situation. That way when people ask them what you guys would like or where you are registered, they can tell them that you aren't registered anywhere and would prefer monetary gifts to use toward a downpayment. Doing it informally through word of mouth is different to me than formalizing it by putting it in writing with the invitations, even though the end result is the same.
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