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Originally Posted by cooliemae
I am getting married in October of this year and my fiance and I have been trying to figure out a nice way to direct our guest/family to donate money to our "House Fund" in lieu of buying a gift.
My fiance and and I both had separate households before moving in together, so we have most everything we need and the the things we do need are bigger items (i.e. washer/dryer, refrigerator, etc.). We are not interested in the formal china or dishware that one might normally receive as wedding presents.
So what are we to do!
We want to set-up an account that family/guest could put money in. The money would be used to help buy all the things we're going to need when we purchase our first home (sometime next year).
What do you guys think? Is it still too tacky to ask for cash versus presents these days? And if not, how does one politely ask for the cash?
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keep the registry small and don't add needless picture frames or similar things to the registry. The smaller the registry, the less gifts to choose from.
Then also make obvious comments like- "we are saving money for a down payment on a house" and "it will take us 3 years to get our house downpayment after marriage" and maybe also "the sooner we get into the house, the sooner our financial life will stabalize".
No need to be subtle. Subtle gets you second place. Ask any vice president. Being bold gets you what you want.