I think it is often hard to even say when exactly one has had the first date. So often you might work with someone, or work together with them in a community group, political effort, volunteer project, place of worship committee, etc. And you take breaks for lunch, coffee, to rest, or just to clear the head with those around you. Maybe in groups, maybe in twos. Or maybe you start carpooling in those groups or twos. Or maybe some of you just get together for a little fun time after work, committee, etc.... Before you know it, you may have been out with someone twenty times or more, yet no one has ever said, "Let's get together for A DATE".....You may have gotten to know a lot about the person and become quite comfortable with going dutch in those situations....In that case, I think it is so much easier to continue going dutch, or to be casually honest about one's financial abilities for dates, or for the person who invited to easily say, "my treat, of course," once you decide that you would like to officially DATE.
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