There are different levels of compatibility, financial and otherwise. When I realized my family needed a financial overhaul, I basically went to them and expressed how this was really really important for my comfort and happiness. And they got right on board. They don't understand everything about my planning, but they know I have a big plan for our future so they happily turn over their paychecks, spend within their allowances, and support me in whatever ways they can.
One family member is really clean and orderly and our house was...not so much when he moved in. When I realized how important it was for him, I started learning the domestic arts and working harder than I ever have at housekeeping. He'll probably always do a great deal of the work and planning, but I support in whatever way I, as a not naturally neat person, am able.
The only true compatibility I've found necessary is the kind where, if something is super important to your partner, you will do whatever you can to help them achieve that, even if it means working against the grain of your own strengths, and really stretching as a person.
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