[jIM_Ohio]

I love money, does that count?

Are you looking for someone to provide for you?
Are you looking for someone to contribute equally?
Are you looking for someone with same values as you?

I think the important thing is to find the right person. If the person is true to themselves, they will learn about money and to share the things their mate values.

My wife is terrible with long term money issues. She is real good at balancing a checkbook. If you needed to ask her what she is invested in, she will tell you to ask me. If you needed her to tell you what long term plan is, she would look at you like she would kick your butt (none of your business), then tell you she didn't know the details either.

Over time our goals have combined. I save a little less so she can spend a little more. She sees value of money in the bank and living on less than we earn.

Half our fights are over money issues to some degree. We don't fight often, but sometimes our views clash. But our commitment to each other always overcomes the differences- it's called compromise.

We make financial compromises all the time. Learning what is truly important is something I would say comes from experience.

I have been married 5 years (6 in August) and it is amazing how little we have fought over last 2 years. The first 2-3 years of marriage is the toughest. Even if you were going out for 4 years prior to marriage (or longer) the first 2-3 years of marriage will be tough. Finances are just part of that challenge.