When I read the initial post I thought “Gee, what a spoiled brat!” However, on further reading I can see that she earns the lion’s share of the money, works full time, and probably takes on a lot of additional stress dealing with her husband’s condition which only allows him to work part-time and bring in a minimal income.
To me getting massages and eating out all the time aren’t necessary (that’s what my DH is for, lol). I married a chef and he gives a darned good massage too.
I come at this from a different perspective than many in that DH and I do not combine our finances (so we don’t need to clear any personal spending with the other, etc.). I wouldn’t want to be told what I could or couldn’t spend. We are quite similar though, and both are savers for the most part. We’re just fiercely independent and don’t want to give up any control over our own personal spending.
Truthfully, if I were making that much more money than DH and paying most of the bills (which she must be if her income is that much higher), I would probably resent being put on an allowance (even though I do think $350/month just to blow is high).
For the original poster, this issue doesn’t really sound like it should be a problem. You’ve already said you don’t spend much of your allowance anyways. Why not give her the majority of it? She could have say $500/month and you take $200. This is more than you say you spend anyways and it would go a long way towards making your wife happy.
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