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Originally Posted by disneysteve
I disagree. I don't think that is good money management - "You're blowing money so I should get to blow money, too." Spending by a couple isn't going to be even, dollar for dollar. My wife spends more than me on clothing. Does that mean I should go out and spend that same amount on something else? Of course not.
Here's an idea. He's spending $100/month on cigarettes. Why don't you spend $100/month to buy him Chantix and get him to quit?
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You didn't read the rest of my post. Of course I don't think that if the one person is spending $100 on crap, then the other should spend $100 on crap too. But for one partner to have 'extra' and the other to have nothing, or to feel like they have nothing (which is worse, imo!) isn't fair, and creates disparity in power. If that $100/month went to pay off her bills, or in a piggy bank account for a rainy day, or whatever, that's fine ... but she should feel like she has a little of her own money to do whatever she wants with. Of course, if buying Chantix for her husband makes her feel happy and empowered, then by all means, do that!