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Originally Posted by sweeps
Snoopy, I think Pearlie was referring to thoughts, not actions. Everyone has thoughts and feelings that they aren't proud of and might regret. It doesn't mean you're a bad person.
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That's definitely what I was getting at.
I absolutely, 100%, would NEVER think it was OK for a parent to tell a kid "you ruined my life". I would consider that downright abusive. And also BS. We're responsible for playing the hand we're dealt--if you're blaming a kid for ruining your life, you're totally abdicating your responsibilty as an adult.
But I also think it's OK for people to acknowledge that their life may have taken a different path, and that the road not taken is kind of attractive.
I knew a girl in high school who got pregnant at 16. She had her baby and raises her as best she can. I have no doubt she loves her daugther with every fiber of her being. But she also will lecture any young girl she can get her hands on about the importance of birth control.