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Originally Posted by pearlieq
This is why we can never have an honest discussion of this issue.
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That was my honest, knee-jerk reaction. That was as honest as I can be.
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Originally Posted by pearlieq
There is too much stigma attached to admitting you regret having (more) children and too many people willing to very harshly judge someone who might feel that way.
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Probably, but who stands up for the child whose parents blame their miserable life on him?
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Originally Posted by pearlieq
I think it hurts us--it keeps us from having a discussion where we can explore all sides of an issue and learn from each other's experiences.
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There, I may agree, but only because I wasn't tactful enough. We could all use more tact, I suppose.
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Originally Posted by pearlieq
It not incompatible to love your children and still realize you would have been happier if you hadn't been a parent or hadn't had as many kids.
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That's like pipe-dreaming. To quote Kip "Like anyone could even know that."
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Originally Posted by pearlieq
Don't be so quick to condem, and especially to condem so absolutely.
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It seems as though you are the judgement police. I'm sorry for my offensiveness. Really, I should have been nicer or more thoughtful in my response. That being said, I'd like to quote from a different post where you pulled out the badge and wrote a ticket on judgementality, as that poster's response would be more eloquent than mine:
"Different people feel differntly and the question is an emtionally charged one in the first place. I am curious as to where the disappointment stems from? Did you not want people to express how they felt? Would you have been more pleased if no one responded in fear of perhaps offending someone? I don't think people where attacking at all, expressing strong feelings, yes. But don't you have strong feelings about your children?
I have no desire to offend, so please let me know how I could share the depth of my feelings without offending. With money or finance it is much easier than children, I can just shrug my shoulders and say oh well, it's just money. I could never do that about the well being of my children...so I am really at a loss. Since I really appreciate the support and advice I get here, I would really like to know. I don't want to be afraid to share what I feel for fear of offending.
There may honestly be no way to do this too....you can't please everyone..."