My husband isn't perfect either...but I didn't settle, I married the man I couldn't live without..oh fine I could live, I wouldn't be all weepy like some person on some stupid TV show last night (I so didn't need to waste time seeing that) But I wouldn't want to live without him...he isn't an exact copy of me to be my soul mate, we even differ rather strongly on some points, we just don't pester each other on them, I love him regardless.
Not that he doesn't have some quirky habits I could do without, just that regardless he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with...no not every minute, in fact one of his bad habits is wanting to be with me and talk about football or hockey when I want to be alone and daydream! (or anything other than talk about football or hockey!)
Just that he knows when I change the subject I have had it...and I know when he goes back to talking about it, he really really wants to talk
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Waiting for the perfect guy isn't going to happen, but if all you do is complain, you have the wrong guy...if you are already married sorry...try therapy, you might come to better terms with the guy you have. If just dating...move out and only date, have the fun, not the hassle.
I read an article about a girl happily married who didn't live with her husband...she loved him, loved dating him, even had kids. But they just had two so different lifestyles they couldn't live together full time. (plenty of sleepovers) - this is weird to me, but hey..it is two folk interested in lifelong monogamous relationship...so what if it doesn't look like my monogamous relationship.
The author prolly is surrounded by folk as I often am, who constantly complain about their spouse...I had one conversation about a man who folded the towels all wrong! are you nuts.. hey he folds em he puts em away, whatever! So she is pointing out hers isn't perfect either...and yeah if he changed XYZ she might have perfection...but then she isn't perfect either.....so we deal..or as she says 'settle'... When I am perfect I might be able to ask for a perfect husband, and I certainly hope it will be the one I have