My BIL is notorious for this. He wants all the siblings to chip in for some great gift he's come up with for the parents. Then he takes all the credit for picking it out, organizing the fund raising, and buying it. As a matter of fact he called this week and asked for $100 for FILs Christmas gift. DH was not pleased. We never spend anywhere near that much on anybody for Christmas.
I always tell BIL that I'm already done Christmas shopping for the year and don't need to get any further gifts. I've noticed he's started to call earlier and earlier in the year now, LOL. No matter when he calls, I'm already done with shopping...
As I've gotten older, I've learned that you don't have to justify yourself to anyone, not even family. It's okay to say, "No thanks, I've got other plans." Don't waste a lot of time trying to make him comfortable with the situation.
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