Comments on: Are You Financially Compatible Enough to Marry? http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html Bridging the gap between saving money and investing Sat, 30 Aug 2008 08:39:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Candy http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-133304 Candy Mon, 29 Oct 2007 01:12:43 +0000 http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-133304 While anyone will tell you that talking about money is the first step in resolving problems, talk alone won't do the trick.When emotions run high, people tend to make fiscal mistakes. Approach family finances as if you were running a business. "If you put a business metaphor into the picture, you'd be surprised how much more methodical people are." While anyone will tell you that talking about money is the first step in resolving problems, talk alone won’t do the trick.When emotions run high, people tend to make fiscal mistakes. Approach family finances as if you were running a business. “If you put a business metaphor into the picture, you’d be surprised how much more methodical people are.”

]]> By: Fred333 http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-121036 Fred333 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 19:16:48 +0000 http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-121036 Great article. My friend just got engaged and I showed him the article. Lets just say he had a lot to think about. Great article. My friend just got engaged and I showed him the article. Lets just say he had a lot to think about.

]]> By: Ann http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-119243 Ann Thu, 27 Sep 2007 20:08:47 +0000 http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-119243 The dowry really had its place, didn't it? It used to be the parents' responsibility to make sure the new couple started off with a solid foundation (of money, land, cattle, silk, labor, homes,...) We now expect a couple to fend for themselves with a place and money to live on, and instead shower them with things to fill their kitchens. So now it’s up to the couple to secure their financial future, instead of the parents. And it would be nice for the couple to make sure they will have a place to put all those kitchen things before they make up that registry. Thank you for your article. If it only were printed in bold in the wedding magazines... The dowry really had its place, didn’t it? It used to be the parents’ responsibility to make sure the new couple started off with a solid foundation (of money, land, cattle, silk, labor, homes,…) We now expect a couple to fend for themselves with a place and money to live on, and instead shower them with things to fill their kitchens.

So now it’s up to the couple to secure their financial future, instead of the parents. And it would be nice for the couple to make sure they will have a place to put all those kitchen things before they make up that registry.

Thank you for your article. If it only were printed in bold in the wedding magazines…

]]> By: FallInLoveWithARichMan http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-119231 FallInLoveWithARichMan Thu, 27 Sep 2007 19:15:11 +0000 http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-119231 This is an excellent article. I only wish you could find out all of these things about a person by the third date! Investing years into a relationship with someone you love and then finding out that you'll be financially screwed for the rest of your life if you decide to marry them sure sticks a person in a bad place. This is an excellent article. I only wish you could find out all of these things about a person by the third date!
Investing years into a relationship with someone you love and then finding out that you’ll be financially screwed for the rest of your life if you decide to marry them sure sticks a person in a bad place.

]]> By: princessperky http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-119190 princessperky Thu, 27 Sep 2007 16:53:52 +0000 http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-119190 What about homeschooling? :) Will your life change after a kid or not? I am a FIRM believer in LOOONG engagements (without children) Gives you time to talk about other peoples lives and see where you fall in. Not gossip, but seeing what you would do in those shoes. Kind of like a colossall game of 'what would you do if...' My husband and I played it for our entire engagement, the car ride home from anywhere was full of talking, much of it how we would raise our kids. Including I might add a few differences..I thought Santa was an evil lie (cute story though) He thought blood in a video game should be red and abundant...we came to compromises, before we ever had a kid. (Santa is a cute story, but we wont lie, bloody games are limited, but the blood is realistic, and abundant) We did also talk of financial topics :). We never really stopped talking (though with kids here now, talking sometimes loses out to sleep!) I think it is why we have such a strong marriage. What about homeschooling? :)

Will your life change after a kid or not?

I am a FIRM believer in LOOONG engagements (without children) Gives you time to talk about other peoples lives and see where you fall in. Not gossip, but seeing what you would do in those shoes. Kind of like a colossall game of ‘what would you do if…’ My husband and I played it for our entire engagement, the car ride home from anywhere was full of talking, much of it how we would raise our kids.

Including I might add a few differences..I thought Santa was an evil lie (cute story though) He thought blood in a video game should be red and abundant…we came to compromises, before we ever had a kid. (Santa is a cute story, but we wont lie, bloody games are limited, but the blood is realistic, and abundant) We did also talk of financial topics :).

We never really stopped talking (though with kids here now, talking sometimes loses out to sleep!)

I think it is why we have such a strong marriage.

]]> By: John Jay http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-119171 John Jay Thu, 27 Sep 2007 15:32:56 +0000 http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2007/09/27/101800_are-you-financially-compatible-enough-to-marry.html#comment-119171 This is a very good and pertinent list, given that so many marriages fail because of money issues. I think you should also discuss very specifically what your expectations are regarding standard of living and how much to spend (are you going to live modestly for your salaries, or try to beat the Jones'?), and observe your partner's current lifestyle to see if this is reasonable. This is a very good and pertinent list, given that so many marriages fail because of money issues. I think you should also discuss very specifically what your expectations are regarding standard of living and how much to spend (are you going to live modestly for your salaries, or try to beat the Jones’?), and observe your partner’s current lifestyle to see if this is reasonable.

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